> My situation is too lengthy of a post but I know the ending will be the crash of a long marriage.
> As Dianna has said, so many of us lose everything but like so much in life, preparation will be the key.
There are really two issues here.
First, I need to be very clear that what I have said is that entering into a transition,
means that we need to be *willing* to lose everything.
The transition journey does not mean that we will actually have to lose anything.
The TG/TS internet world is filled with stories of people losing everything while going through transition.
Virtually every one of these stories involves a transition done improperly, and generally done too quickly.
Marriage is a shared experience.
Marriage necessarily involves negotiation, compromise, and renegotiation, and new compromise.
What this means is that you cannot just talk to her;
there is nothing you can say to convince her that what you are about to do will be okay for her, too.
She will need to see through her own eyes and through her own experience,
that your changes will not be socially damaging to her.
She will need to see and to experience this over a period of time, a considerable period of time.
She will need to see and to experience that your personal portrayal of female, is not outlandish in any way shape or form.
Your situation, your marriage, is really no different in complexity or detail than any other marriage;
TG/TS/XD or not.
You can make this all work out, if you're willing to listen, and to learn, from others
who have gone before you.
If you choose to do this on your own, instead, there will be no promise of a desirable outcome.